Isn't it maddening when others aren't acting the way you want or expect them to? Loved ones have pissed me off or let me down too many times to count. I used to get so hurt by their actions, or inactions. Why did they have to BE like that?? Gradually, over the last several months - as I am working on sobriety in body, mind and spirit - I have begun to discover the beauty of low to no expectations. This is tough for me because I do expect a lot from the people I invest in - friends, colleagues, my parents, and especially my husband and children. Often times, my expectations are unfair or even unknown to the person who has just disappointed me. And, the more I would feel let down by others, the more I would tend to disconnect. Needless to say, this practice does not lead to stronger, healthier relationships.
In my hula-hoop, I only have control over my own thoughts, words and actions. I alone set my levels of expectations and acceptance. So if I choose to 'bend over backwards', I better be doing it just for me, because those around me may not notice or may even be grossed out by backbends! It's not for me to know, expect or control.
High acceptance, low expectations- it's not about letting people off easy; it's about living in a way in which I can find true peace inside my little yellow hula-hoop. #acceptance #hulahoop